Communication. This word is the most important in an officer family's vocabulary. Although you have to screen the home phone and their cell phone, talking with your spouse about what calls they might be receiving is essential. If they are required to respond incidents, you can answer the phone and wake them up if needed. After all, it would be silly for your spouse to be awoken just to tell the phone company they are satisfied with their service. I know you are not their secretary, but with the fun of being an officer's spouse comes--the fun.
Lazy Summer Days
Even if you have the best routine in your house; you get the kids to school and manage to keep them quiet when they get home, the inevitable happens--Summer Vacation.
Now what? Your spouse's hours don't change. A few changes to your routine can help your husband get the sleep he needs. First, arrange for outside time while he is sleeping. Encourage the kids to sleep in a bit longer and when they wake up, take them to the park. Even older children can be encouraged to skateboard or play street hockey. Second, schedule quiet time for inside.
Activities such as reading, movie watching, and summer work can be arranged at the kitchen table. Look at this time as your time with the kids. Just make sure when your officer wakes up you ask for the personal time you need to take a walk, enjoy coffee with friends, or even a bubble bath with a glass of wine.
Another option is to trade kids with other parents. Having your children spend time in houses with those who are not sleeping and allowing their children to spend time with you when your spouse is not home is a time honored way to help each other out. After all, we are a family within the thin blue line. Use it to your advantage. Again, you are not alone.
Being a police officer's spouse is not easy. I sometimes wonder why I signed on for a second tour of duty. One thing is for sure: sleep is possible. Regularity can be scheduled. Your spouse and you have to communicate and understand each other. Police marriages can work. You just have to be willing to draw outside the lines.