Having a child get into trouble can be difficult for any parent. A parent working in law enforcement adds additional elements. If you are the parent, remember you are not the cause and it doesn't mean you failed or are less of a parent or an officer. If you are a co-worker, give your support. Finally, when working with the community, be empathetic.
Bettinger sums it up, "If I knew I was going to be the parent of a criminal, I would have been nicer to parents with problem children when I answered calls for service to their homes. I would have spent more time with them. I would have learned of more options to suggest to them in dealing with their child and the problems he/she was creating. Maybe I would have created a list of referral agencies they could contact for assistance in dealing with the problem so they wouldn't wind up dealing with the same problems I eventually had to deal with."