Does it make a difference if the death is that of a male or female? Of course not; both are equally mourned; no one sex takes precedence over the other. The loss of a husband, wife, mother, or father, is devastating. Ask any family who has suffered such a tragedy, and they will simply tell you they've lost a family member. It matters not whether that loved one was a man or a woman.
In the United States there are 900,000 law enforcement officers protecting you and me every day. Twelve per cent of that complement is female. They serve proudly, and fearlessly face danger from knuckle-draggers who would just as soon kill them as any male officer. In fact, according to the National Law Enforcement Memorial, 237 female officers have been killed in the line of duty. They've made the ultimate sacrifice; they've paid the price.
Women in combat - good or bad? My answer: a resounding good. I've trained women in PT/DT, and in firearms, and I've seen them react under stress. I've gone through doors with them and worked alongside them on protracted surveillances. Some have whined, as have some men; most have simply steeled themselves to the challenge. To withhold them from serving on the battlefield is a mistake and dishonors the memory of those who have fallen. To over-react when one of them is killed is to pay a disservice to those willing and able to serve. If you've ever seen an angry female bear defending her family, you have an idea of how ferocious our warriors in high heels can become. We need them on the front lines.
Stay safe, brothers and sisters!