Taking Control of Christmas

The holidays can be a joyous time, but for many people they are an emotional minefield.


Many television shows depict friends that become closer than family such as Friends, Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, Grey's Anatomy, and so on. We are seeing this is also becoming a reality in our lives. We have been very blessed by some special people that have come into our lives that have become our family. We have been very grateful to them for including us in their holiday celebrations and for them opening their homes to us. It gives a sense of belonging and purpose. Many have come from the strong sense of fraternity that goes with the job, being able to understand the abnormal which becomes our normal. A couple of our other strong bonds come from my world of healthcare which shares some of the traits of working nontraditional hours.

Remembering the meaning of the season

When Mike and I become sad during the holidays it is easy to become self-involved and to forget why this holiday season exists. To become wrapped up in what we do not have or how we feel disconnected from family only feeds the sadness, disappointment, and anger. Instead, tuning to the spiritual reason for the season refocuses our energy outward and lifts our mood. In reality, the season is not about us but is the source of our faith. It is a time to give back with our time, talents, and finances. It is a time to share our multitude of blessings with others.

The holidays can be a joyous time, but for many people they are an emotional minefield. And this can be especially true for those who serve and protect while most others gather with family and friends. For us, December started hard. We were not looking forward to the holidays; just the opposite, we could not wait for them to pass. But we decided to take control and make them our own and December is ending on a much brighter - and much more joyous - note.



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