If you can’t laugh at the ridiculousness of the world around you with your LEO significant other, you’re too serious. And, in my experience, being too serious in this line of work will make you cynical, bitter and extremely unhappy. Being able to laugh when your dinner plans are interrupted by a call out or when schedule changes make you cancel your vacation…again is important. It’s easy to want to get angry and place blame on each other for the difficulties in life and those things that are out of your and your LEO’s control. Being able to keep it in perspective, it comes with the job, will allow you to not create resentments. Being able to laugh about it and work around it will strengthen the feeling of partnership and reinforce the “we’re in this together.”
Laugher is the best medicine. Research has found it to be incredibly good for physical and mental health. It’s a rocking ab workout and reduces stress. One morning, my LEO brought me doughnuts at work after I had just finished Third shift and was gearing up to do a double and work First. He came into dispatch in uniform carrying a box of doughnuts and wearing the Krispy Kreme hat. When he told me he had barged into the shop and practically shouted, “Where’s the doughnuts? I need doughnuts,” I almost wet my pants laughing at the image. I appreciated his ability to bring comedy into our relationship, especially since law enforcement mandatory staffing was creating my staying at the console for at least another six hours instead of going home with him. So, rent a funny movie, go to a comedy club or play Guesstures with some friends. You’ll both feel better.
Being married to someone who works as a law enforcement officer has its challenges. Relationships can take a beating. If as a significant other you have a few important skills, including the ability to be compassionate, knowledge in how to clean (or show him or her how) certain items and bring laugher into the relationship, some of the stresses can be neutralized. It can be a fun ride being with an LEO, especially if you can keep love in your heart, a bottle of peroxide under the sink and smile on your lips.
About the Author
Michelle Perin has been a freelance writer since 2000. Her credits include Law Enforcement Technology, Police, Law and Order, Police Times, Beyond the Badge, Michigan State Trooper, Michigan Snowmobiler Magazine and Chief of Police. She writes two columns a month for Officer.com. Michelle worked for the Phoenix (AZ) Police Department for almost eight years. In December 2010, she earned her Master’s degree in Criminology and Criminal Justice from Indiana State University. Currently, Michelle works as the Administrative Coordinator at Jasper Mountain a residential psychiatric facility for children. In her spare time, she enjoys being the fundraising coordinator for the Lane Area Ferret Shelter & Rescue, playing her bass, working on her young adult novel Desert Ice and raising her two sons in a small town in Oregon.